Are you my mom, or not?

Well, my mom and I had some disagreements in my teen years. I never felt like she ever wanted me to begin with. I hardly ever felt like part of the family. So, when I moved out I left a bad note. I've appologized for it, but she continues to not be a part of my life. We've talked several times, shortly. She told me many years ago that her and her mother didn't talk for 10 yrs. So I asked her if that's what she's trying to do with me, she didn't answer. Well, it's been 17 yrs.

I have a 15 y.o. son and a 7 y.o. daughter. She doesn't want anything to do with them. When my son was born, she let me come to her house and show her pics, then told me that she wasn't going to allow me to use him to get to her. I was just trying to make a connection with my mother. Something we've never had.

For the last few years she has sent my kids Christmas gifts, but still won't talk to them on the phone when they want to say "thank you". We even drove 10 hrs to my grandmother's funeral to support my dad. She still acts like a cold-hearted b....

My sister just had her second baby late August. She has pics of the family, including mom and dad. Mom is holding the new baby. When I looked at the pic, I felt sick. I still feel sick even thinking about it. It's so hurtful. My sister got involved in drugs and a few other things. My brother was a "gang-banger" that was kicked out of HS. She supports the two of them fully. Growing up, it was like I was the middle child or the ugly red-headed step child, when in fact I am the oldest.

She also disowned her other son, Bryan, when he was only a few years old. She left him in California with his bio dad. Why didn't she leave me. Sometimes I wish she had. I love the family I have now and wouldn't change it. I know, deep down, that if she left me in Cali, I wouldn't have this family. She left my brother, she left me.

My sister is the only one who invites me to "family" gatherings. She's the only one I talk to on a regular basis. I am thankful for my sister.

The things he refuses to do?

Currently, I am trying to get my visitation order modified so that my ex will have to come here to pick up his daughter. He doesn't have a TDL, auto ins, plus he has unpaid tickets for no license and no ins. He has an open case on possession charges. He has a warrant for theft by check. He smokes cigarettes around our daughter, even in the car on the way to drop her off where we meet. She can't breathe very well when I get her back. The doc told him when she was 1 y.o. not to smoke around her. She has allergies. He doesn't pay his child support unless he's taken to court or about to go to jail. He "snitches" on people to get out of jail time for drug issues. He lies about people to get sympathy sex. He uses people. He steals. He cheats.

A couple of months ago, the DRO, Dispute Resolutions Officer, revoked his case with the OAG. When this happens, the OAG is suppose to present the case to a judge to get a warrant for his arrest. Well, the OAG was taking there sweet time, as usual, and his attorney convinced the DRO to take the case back and discontinue the warrant. Well, she did. They made some kind of a deal, but, to no surprise, he once again, just a month later, is not paying his child support. He paid what he had to to get out of the warrant because we were going to court.

When will he have to "pay" for all his wrong doings?